Yes folks, as the days go by, we hear about extra marital affairs more often than we hear about the government corruption in the papers.
All these years - infidelity has always been focused on men. A survey done sometime back showed that 1/3 of the men population surveyed showed of having had at least one extramarital affair in their lifetime. But recently, surveys showed that more and more married women are engaging in something called the “harmless fling”. Are these flings really harmless??
Women count cheating their husbands now equals to that of the men.
Why it is that now more and more women are having affairs than ever before? One can debate by saying that now they are more women seen in the professional line and their social lives have extended beyond the walls of their homes. Their job, meetings, business travels and business parties are all breeding grounds for getting one’s marriage on the rocks!
Most of the women these days make equal or more than their spouses and find themselves more independent than before. Some of them even plan their kids later so that they could get a sneak peak of what is there in store for them outside their present unfulfilling marriage.
It’s amazing to know that most women really don’t look for greener pastures outside their marriage for “sex”. A lot of women look out to cope up with their emotional voids.
So I guess unlike men, women do have their head on their shoulders when it comes to having affairs.
But there are instances that women actually having a unhappy and inactive sex life has been looking out for a partner in the sack!!
Why do men and women really cheat??? – This has always been a never-ending debate both at homes and in talk shows.
In my unbiased view some men after marriage look at their wives as trophies, or something that they have accomplished. And like all men, we know, they always want MORE! This is when they venture out to newer avenues looking at the next impossible or forbidden thing to accomplish. This could just be for sex or just to rekindle the lost passion he would have had with an old flame.
Women mostly do this for the lost attention, inactive sex life or because of the vacuum created by boredom. A husband who is married to his work, sports channel etc……… would just leave the woman hungry for attention and love she needs with a “taken for granted” feeling. All she needs at this time is to find that someone who would say all the right things and make her feel like a princess.
If this infidelity becomes a long term affair, it shakes more marriages that just the regular one night stands. This is because most women land up getting both their heart and body involved. Unlike one night stands where, one just quenches their inner most desires, an emotional attachment gets difficult to break.
In the end of it all - a harmless fling is not as safe as it seems, especially if its one of your old boyfriends from college. Maybe u just wants to relive your younger days or just want to be up to mischief again. One may debate that affairs are for people who are missing out on the sex; some call it a new emotional attachment.
People have their views, but for me, an affair with someone who you are not meant to be, is just a sign of wanting the missing passion which is left missing in the current relationship. And passion is linked emotionally to me.
One does not put in a lot of thought before jumping into something like this it’s just an opportunity gained, a window opened.....
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